A major task in adolescence is to develop the ability to think in the abstract. This means we learn how to not look at everything as black-and-white. There are some things that are black or white, and we know, without it being said, that they are either right or wrong. However, most of life does not reside in the extremes. A huge percentage of what we experience resides in the gray areas.
When we come into recovery, we discover that we too have a need to stop looking at everything in the extreme. We each have a need to develop skills that we were never able to develop because of trauma or addiction. Both trauma and addiction interfere with our ability to develop abstract thinking. Because of our struggles, we were stuck in right and wrong thinking.
Christ-centered recovery is a great way to get out of the legalistic, black and white thinking. We learn that we are all broken and in need of a Savior. We learn how to love each other and to offer grace. We see people fall down and instead of doing nothing, we are there to help them back up. We learn how to stop placing expectations on others and how to love them through their brokenness. Life is so much more than two shades of color. When we live in the middle, we get to experience a life of subtlety and depth that we never experience in the legalistic extremes.
Written by Jackell.