Recovery is messy. We need people in our lives that will challenge our values, beliefs, and behaviors, yet that’s the one thing most of us try to avoid. We would much rather hear good things from others than someone challenge us on our irrational beliefs and self-defeating behaviors.
People who are bold enough to challenge us are a rare blessing. It takes a lot of confidence for someone to challenge another person’s thinking and behavior. People don’t challenge us unless they love and care about us. When someone doesn’t love, there is no desire to challenge. People who challenge do so because they have love, are intentional, and have a vision for the person they are challenging.
We challenge each other to grow but we are not in control of anyone’s growth. We challenge and then step out of the way of the Holy Spirit. There is a God, and it’s not us. Challenge does not equal control. When we challenge someone, it’s up to them to decide how they want to respond. We are challenged without judgment and expectations. We are free to continue doing what we have always done, or we can be open to hearing someone else challenge us to grow.
Written by Jackell