Our desire to be in control of our lives was the fuel that flamed our addictions, co-dependency, lust, fear, and resentments. Control is an unreliable travel companion. The more we try to be in control, the more out of control we become. When we feel out of control, we attempt to make things right by trying to be more in control. This creates cycles of feeling out of control and failed attempts at fixing the problems through additional control.
Control isolates us completely by deceiving us into believing we should be totally self-reliant, never relying on Christ or others for any of our needs. Each time we fall for the trap of attempting to be in control, we drift farther away from everyone, especially Christ. Control is an illusion featured by the enemy to dupe us into believing we have ultimate power with no need for Christ.
God wants us to give up control to Him because He loves us. God knows that we can not do life on our own terms. Since God is a gentleman, He won’t take control of our lives without our permission. When we stop fighting the war of control and surrender to God’s plan for our lives, we become victorious. In recovery, we surrender to win. We no longer entertain thoughts of being in control and we surrender it all to God. Only when we let go of control are we able to be the people God intended us to be.
Written by Jackell.