Many of us have experienced people and situations that at first appeared one way and then ended up being something totally different. Often times, it’s difficult to tell what a person is like when we first meet them. There are times when we meet someone who appears to be the person they are portraying themselves to be. Then we get to know them and they are not that way at all. There are others who, upon meeting them, don’t have any kind of connection with us; however, those same ones will turn out to be some of our greatest friends.
It’s important to understand the need for discernment in our relationships. Discernment can be tricky. Sometimes, our ‘picker’ is broken, causing us difficulty in picking people who are safe and healthy In recovery, we develop the ability to have discernment with love. We can still care for and love those who may not be very healthy and safe for us. Over time, we can learn how to surround ourselves with people who are spiritually mature, growing, healthy believers in recovery.
We are going to experience lots of different types of people and situations in our lifetimes that call for discernment. People are streaming through the doors of our recovery groups like rivers flowing through fertile pastures. Some will stay to enjoy the peace and serenity of our still waters of recovery, while others will flow past. Recovery allows those who have just been floating through life to stop and take up roots in our calm and tranquility. Christ loved everyone He came into contact with but He didn’t choose everyone to walk in discipleship with Him. We love and we discern.
Written by Jackell