Encouraging one another is important to each of our recoveries. Many of us have grown up in homes that fostered criticism. We too exhibited critical behavior due to the role models in our lives. Changing these destructive behavioral patterns can be a difficult process. By using this critical conduct, we are attempting to protect ourselves by failing to address our real issues, not focusing on ourselves, and staying in denial. It appears easier to look at what others are doing instead of our own actions.
Jesus said, “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?” Recovery in Christ gives us an opportunity to stop the cycle of condemnation, criticism of others, and start developing healthy habits of encouragement and lifting others up. We spent years being critical of others to stay in denial. It’s going to take time to break through this addiction and become an encourager to others.
In recovery, we also learn to stop being critical with ourselves. Racing thoughts and worrying about saying or doing the right things are symptoms of anxiety. Having the condition of anxiety is different from feeling anxious. In both the feeling and the condition, we receive healing by learning how to change how we are thinking from negative self-talk to positive affirmations. Remember, when we are tearing ourselves down, we are harming one of God’s precious children. Each day, we strive to encourage others while learning to accept encouragement from ourselves and others.
Written by Jackell.