Many of us have lived our lives with the irrational belief of having to work for the approval of others. We spent a huge amount of time and effort in being a “human doing” instead of a “human being”. Our lives revolved around how we could meet up to the expectations of others. In trying to do so, we allowed ourselves to get drawn into abusive and empty relationships, and our lives seemed to be dead-end and meaningless. We believed the lie that we were not enough.
On our own, and without God, we will always be lacking. Still, when we get into recovery and see tremendous change happening in our lives, we continue to have that nagging voice in our minds tell us that we are still not enough. The voice tells us we need to be results driven, and we could never be how we view others to be. We compare ourselves harshly with others.
Over time in recovery, we begin to hear another voice. This voice is different from the other voice. The voice that says we will never be enough is harsh and full of shame. This voice comes to us softly and gently, speaking to our hearts, as well as our heads. This voice tells us we no longer need to seek the approval of others. We begin to listen as the love in this gentle, soft voice begins to drown out the screams of the other voice. God is telling us we are His, and we are more than enough. Our worth is no longer measured by what we are doing, but rather by who we belong to.
Written by Jackell.