There’s an old humorous saying in recovery that really makes us think about gossip: the one thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about. None of us really enjoy the idea of people spending time gossiping about us. Gossip does nothing more than tear people down. Gossip can destroy a recovery community faster than anything else. We need to be vigilant about not gossiping and not allowing others to engage in conversations with us that involve gossip.
There’s another old saying we have that is more to the point about gossip: what other people think about us is none of our business. We are not on this Earth to make sure that everyone likes us. Many of us understand the nature of codependency and the damage caused by people pleasing. We are here to be the hands and feet of Jesus Christ and how others view that is not our concern. We are servants of Christ and how He sees us is going to be vastly more important than how others see us.
In recovery, we don’t gossip about others, nor do we listen to gossip. We don’t concern ourselves with worrying about people talking about us. We are working with the broken who are still going by the world’s standards. The world sees gossip as natural and normal. We see it as sinful because gossip is meant to do two things: make us feel better than the person we are gossiping about and make them look less than us. We must remember that gossip destroys our recovery communities because it makes them unsafe. We are each a child of God and we are to treat each other with dignity and respect.
Written by Jackell.