It’s important for us to grieve our old life in order for us to live fully in our new one. If we skip the grieving process, we are at a higher risk of sliding back into our old lives. The problem with grieving is that it’s full of grief. Experiencing pain from loss, no matter what the loss, is difficult for most of us. The majority of us have lived our lives avoiding pain at all cost. In recovery, we stop avoiding the grieving process and learn how to trust God with our pain. There is no going over, under, or around our pain. We walk through it, but not alone. We now have Christ and others who have also walked through pain and came out the other side stronger.
The thing that’s caused us the most pain is the avoidance of pain. The original pain is long gone and, in most cases, mostly forgotten. Many of us have been avoiding our pain for so long, we no longer remember the pain we were avoiding. Avoiding pain has kept us from experiencing grief and being able to heal.
Christ wants us to fully grieve our past so that we can enter this new life with Him. We can’t live free in a new life with Christ if we are weighed down by the burdens of our old lives. Christ knew this when He said, “Blessed are those who mourn.” In recovery, we stop looking at mourning as a curse. We start seeing it as a blessing that enables us to let go of our past and learn to become more like Christ.
Written by Jackell.