We all want our recovery groups to be safe places. The rooms of recovery should always be a place that is warm and inviting. Anyone who is new to recovery should be welcomed with open arms, and leave knowing that they found a place to call home. At the same time, we have to realize that it’s impossible to remove every trigger for everyone from our recovery meetings. Nor should we even attempt to. Recovery is a messy business and we shouldn’t attempt to pad the corners of our recovery meetings.
We don’t need to “childproof” our recovery meetings. We all come into recovery with all kinds of different issues. one of us might command with an aversion to kittens. Another might have some anxiety about being in crowds. We do not have to ban all pictures of kittens in the group or make sure our meetings only consist of 10 people or less. Whatever the person is struggling with, we don’t need to be chasing symptoms and trying to make everything comfortable for them. Recovery is not about being comfortable. Recovery is about getting over that fear of kittens and learning how to manage anxiety. When we pad the corners of recovery, we are taking away opportunities for growth and healing.
We no longer conform to the patterns of this world. This world is all about making everything safe and comfortable for every single person. There’s nothing wrong with comfort, except when that comfort inhibits growth and healing. We need to foster wellness, not get in the way of the Holy Spirit doing some healing in a person. The person who has a fear of kittens might not ever get past that if the picture is taken down to accommodate their fear. We stop putting band-aids on open wounds that need gauze and stitching. We stop padding the corners and allow people to grow and heal in a safe and loving environment.