Too much grace is enabling. Too little grace is legalism.
If grace was easy, there wouldn’t be a need for recovery. Unless we avoid life, we are all going to have to give and receive grace at some point in our lives. Some of us, who struggle with codependency, find it difficult knowing when to allow someone to face the consequences of their behavior. We offer too much grace. Others of us who are more on the selfish end of the spectrum tend to be less inclined to give grace. We have difficulty forgiving others.
A part of the recovery process is learning to be somewhere in the middle when it comes to grace. The key to true Christian recovery is to integrate both grace and truth into life, imitating the character of Christ. We learn we can’t let people have a pass on violating our boundaries. And we also learn we have to forgive them while at the same time letting them know they overstepped our boundaries.
When Christ gives us grace, he also gives us truth. This is reflected in the scriptures when he would heal someone and then tell them “go and sin no more.” Grace is given to us freely with a measure of truth. With grace we are convicted. We learn to move towards the middle of too much grace and too little grace.
Written by James Miller