Step 10: We continued to take personal inventory and when wrong promptly admitted it.
Years ago in recovery, there was a joke known as “ten.” This was used when someone was offended by something somebody else in recovery said or did. The offending person would say “ten” to show they were admitting their wrongdoing and they were trying to “promptly make amends.” The offense was usually minor and by saying this simple word they were trying to bring some humor to the situation.
The tenth step calls us to continue to look at our actions and how our actions affect others. We are to search our hearts and ask for forgiveness when our actions affect others in a negative way. We are to ask for this forgiveness promptly. We don’t let things fester and grow. As soon as we realize that we have offended someone, we take responsibility for our behavior. Being prompt to make amends causes us to mature in our relationships and grow deeper in our relationship with Christ.
At some point in each of our recoveries, we are going to have those “ten” moments. While it may not always be appropriate to simply say “ten,” we need to make prompt amends. The tenth step allows us to pause, look at where we have been wrong, and take appropriate action in order to make amends. This step of searching ourselves and taking responsibility for our behaviors is what matures us along the road to recovery.
Written by Jackell